Thursday, September 29, 2011

Guarding the Gates of the Soul in Loneliness

The gates of your soul include your eyes, ears and mouth. While it’s true we should guard the gates to our soul at all times, it is especially true during times of loneliness and isolation because it is then when we tend to fall prey to the lies of the enemy. Consider what you feeding your spirit by evaluating what you are watching and listening to on a daily basis. Your entertainment choices can wreak havoc on your state of mind.

When you are feeling lonely be sure you don’t starve your spirit. Remember what you feed will grow, so feed your spirit and not your flesh.

Also, be sure to speak life because your words are powerful. Don’t just speak what you feel, but speak what God says about a matter because that’s truth. For example, don’t just keep telling yourself you’re all alone and nobody loves you. Say, Lord I may feel all alone but I know your Word says you love me and that you will never leave me nor forsake me. No matter how you feel, speak life.

Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Handling the State of Loneliness

While you may feel as if you have nothing left to give, that’s exactly what you need to do. Give out of your need. Whatever you need, give. Find someone who’s going through something and minister to them. Give and it shall be given unto you (Luke 6:38). This may sound like strange advice, especially when you find yourself in so much pain but keep in mind God’s ways are not like our ways (Isaiah 55:8-9).

Giving does a few things. First it allows you to be God’s hand and feet in the world by blessing others, but it also gets your focus off of you. Press past your pain and find a way to bless someone else because ultimately you will be blessed in the process.

By applying these simple do's and don’ts in time you will begin to feel God strengthening you and recognize His arms uplifting you. So yes you may feel all alone, but know that God is there and He has provided people all around you to help you as well. Don’t isolate yourself from God’s love and His people.

Of course I am not a doctor or psychologist so none of this is attended to be medical advice. If you are experiencing a prolong bout with loneliness and depression, please seek professional help.

Thursday, September 22, 2011

Being Content in the Wait

Everything in life happens for a reason and most things last only for a season. The problem is we want to define how long a season should last. We desire to live our lives as if we can skip from 1st grade to 12th grade, as if none of the training gained in grades 2nd through 11th is necessary. We go through phases, or various states of being for a reason. God uses them to grow and develop us.

While it's true most single women desire to be married, very few prepare to be a wife. Use this time to prepare to be the wife God is calling you to be.

So many marriages end in divorce and I believe a major reason is that people rush in to marriage simply because they're tired of being single. They often are in love with the idea of being married but don't want to do what it takes to make a marriage work.

Others are in such a hurry to be married that they will marry just about anyone that comes along then wonder why they are so miserable. You've tried everything else, now try waiting on God.

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Still Waiting... And Now What?!

We live in an instant society. Just about everything is at our fingertips via our computer, phone, iPod, etc. and we expect God to operate in an instant upon our request. Well, God does not operate in time and space and what's more He operates according to His will for our lives (not ours).

"My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts, says the Lord. And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine. For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so My ways are higher than your ways and My thoughts higher than your thoughts."- Isaiah 55:8-9 NLT

We think just because we believe we're ready for something now (i.e. be done with this singleness thing), that God should recognize that and grant our every wish.

Let God be God and go with the flow because you can rest assured He has your best interest at heart. God loves you more than you love yourself and He will always love you better than anyone else ever will.

"But those who trust in the Lord will find new strength. They will soar high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint."- Isaiah 40:31 NLT

Thursday, September 15, 2011

I'm Going to Sit Right Here and Wait

Could it be that waiting is so hard because we define it as ‘to stay in place in expectation of something’ rather than ‘to serve’ (as a restaurant waiter does)?

God doesn't want us to just sit around waiting in our singleness, we should be serving. In fact, once we are married we will likely not have the time to serve as much because then marriage and family will become our first ministry priority.

Rather than just waiting to be removed from PMS, we should be serving God by serving others. There is much to be done. The harvest is great, and the laborers are few.

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Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Lord, I Feel Cursed with Singleness!

Life is all about relationships, but for some reason we tend to make it about the lack of one relationship. You are not incomplete because you are not a part of a couple. You are a whole woman just as you are. So be sure to enjoy all the relationships in your life.

Singleness doesn’t have to be a burden, it’s actually a great opportunity to serve. Enjoy this time just getting to know yourself and God better. Granted, some days that will be easier said than done, but believe me, it is possible.

Many single women have gone on to live very full, well-balanced lives. Some have even gotten married and started families, which just goes to prove you're not necessarily destined to be single forever.

Don't put your life on hold waiting to be married. Also, don't wait until you're sick and tired of being sick and tired to start enjoying your life. There is no reason why you can enjoy a full life right now.

Be encouraged my sister you’re single, not dead.

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Monday, September 12, 2011

Living a Life of Happiness

One reason many people are so anxious to find a mate, is because they believe it is the doorway to happiness. They have fallen for the illusion that happiness will be achieved when their prince or princess rides in on a white horse and whisks them away to marital bliss. So, instead of embracing life's precious moments, and living life with passion and purpose each day, they sit in the holding pattern of discontent. This is a choice.

Each day we have to make that conscious choice to be happy, to focus on the positives, not the negatives. Granted, there are times when sadness is justified. Accept that the human experience can be challenging, difficult, and flawed, but don't dwell on misery. Sometimes when we feel blue, it is because we are transforming and "shedding our old skin" and growing into something better. We don't understand what is happening, and we temporarily feel a loss of our old selves. It is ok to feel a little blue during periods of transformation and contemplation of the self, especially when it means letting go of our old comfort zone, even if it wasn't serving us a positive purpose.

But if you wish to add romantic love to your life, start by loving yourself, because happy, caring, loving people attract happy, caring, loving people.