Tuesday, December 25, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies | Soar Like an Eagle, Fake It 'Til You Make It

One way to break out of your own self-imposed limitations, take a step out of your comfort zone and build confidence is to play a part. This might sound like it couldn’t work. Like you are just making things up and lying to yourself. Well, that might be the case. But it still works. If you don’t feel confident, fake it and play the part of how you would think and behave if you were confident. Soon you’ll really start to feel confident. The part becomes real.

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies | Soar Like an Eagle, Let Your Creativity Soar

Everyone is a creative person. But after childhood and the teenage years this is sometimes forgotten. Rediscovering your creativity is a good way to improve your confidence in yourself. Creating something is a wonderful but not always easy experience. But when you’re done you not only feel good about yourself. Sometimes you discover new, previously unknown parts of yourself. Being creative is good a way to get to know yourself and your hidden capabilities.

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies | Soar Like an Eagle, Face a Fear

If you face a fear then your confidence takes about ten steps up. And for every time you face a fear you can slowly start to discover that the classic quote “There is nothing to fear but fear itself” was not just another empty cliche.

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies | Don't Block the Flow Series, Friends and Family

Do your friends and family take advantage of your “good nature” and ask you to do too much for them with little or no return of the favor?  Unfortunately, it's not always a “good nature”,  sometimes it is a red light of self-esteem. Something is blocking the natural understanding you have as a goddess being about balance, versus the give and take in any relationship. Have the courage to say, “That’s enough!”

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies | Don't Block the Flow Series, Settling for Less

You see it everywhere – women who settle or say yes to relationships that don’t really work for them because they are essentially convinced they cannot really be treated like the goddesses they are.  You have to realize that until you love yourself, you can't obtain the kind of love you want.

Monday, November 19, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies | Making the Most of the Season

If you're dreading the holiday season, there are a few things that you can do to make them a little easier. 

Feeling good can do wonders for your self esteem. Buy yourself a new outfit that makes YOU feel good when you wear it.

Get a new hairdo and/or a manicure right before the party date. The natural high from getting something done and looking good will help your party spirit. Just don't go overboard.

Remember, you only live once and life is what you make of it, even at times it may be hard to keep a smile on your face.

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies | Don't Block the Flow Series, Don't Self-Destruct!

Sure indications of blocks in the area of personal and/or spiritual growth are ignoring your intuition or hunches and/or continuation of self-destructive behaviors even when the negative results in your life are very obvious. You must tackle what is necessary to heal the self-esteem issues that harbor such behaviors.

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies | Don't Block the Flow Series, Fun and Recreation

Are you someone who works all the time?  With excellent self-esteem and self-love, who would work so much doing a job she hated?  Do you work or play too much? It is probable that if you do, you are dealing with some sort of block to your own happiness and fulfillment.

Tuesday, October 30, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies | Don't Block the Flow Series, Clutter

Clutter is an example of a block. I’m not saying if you don’t put everything away every time you use it, you are blocked and living in clutter. You aren’t bad or wrong. What I am saying is that if your piles have piles, you can’t remember the last time you saw your appointment book or your telephone bill, you are living with clutter – a physical manifestation of a block.

Friday, September 28, 2012

Make Your Life Anything You Want it to Be #AlltheSingleLadies

This is ultimately the biggest advantage to being a single woman. You have the unique opportunity to mold and shape your life and pursue your dreams.
There are no reasons to settle for second-best and no one else is depending on the choices that you make. Even if your ultimate goal is to marry and settle down, you might as well get your own life in place first.

So go for the brass ring and shoot for the stars. Create the life that you want for yourself and then, if you want one, find a partner who will fit into that life.

Friday, September 21, 2012

Prioritizing the Qualities #AlltheSingleLadies

Too often, women are distracted by their current partners and have little time to consider qualities they want in an ideal partner. Use this time for self-reflection. Consider your past relationships: Why didn't they work out, and what was lacking? More important, reflect on yourself. What are your strengths? What kind of partner do you need to match your temperament? What are your passions? Do you need someone who shares these passions? These reflections will prevent you from making the wrong decisions once you start dating.

Friday, September 14, 2012

Pursuing Your Career #AlltheSingleLadies

Relationships take time and commitment, and women often compromise their careers to make their relationships work. However, today's woman is ambitious and career-driven. Take this opportunity to focus on your career before you marry and start a family. Despite all efforts to remain career-focused, women with families are inevitably distracted by domestic responsibilities. Pursue your career ambitions while you are single. Achievements gained in your career can improve your confidence and shape you as an individual. When you decide to start dating again, this confidence will set you apart from other women.

Friday, September 7, 2012

Developing Your Interests #AlltheSingleLadies

It might be tough being single while your friends are coupling up around you. There is also the discomfort of societal and familial pressure to date and get married. However, succumbing to these pressures might force you to compromise. There are many advantages of being a single woman. Make use of this time to develop your interests and priorities.

Monday, September 3, 2012

Discovering New Things About Yourself #AlltheSingleLadies

Being in a relationship means you have less time for yourself. While you are single, take up hobbies that you have always wanted to pursue. On the surface, pursuing a new hobby seems like a way to fill time. However, it is also a way to discover new things about yourself. 

Friday, July 27, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies: Don't Worry if You're Single, #TheSISTAHSMinistry

"Don't worry if you're single, GOD IS LOOKING AT YOUR RIGHT NOW
saying, 'I'm saving this one for someone SPECIAL.'"

Friday, July 20, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies: Looking for Love, #TheSISTAHSMinistry

"Being single isn't a time to be looking for love.  Use that time
to work on yourself and grow as an individual."

Friday, July 13, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies: Single is NOT A STATUS, #TheSISTAHSMinistry

"SINGLE is not a status, it is a word that describes a person who is
strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others."

Friday, July 6, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies: Know Who You Are, #TheSISTAHSMinistry

"The more you know who you are, and what you want,
the less you let things upset you."

Friday, June 29, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies: You Can Still Stand, #TheSISTAHSMinistry

"Sometimes you have to stand alone to prove that 
you can still stand."

Friday, June 22, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies: Saturday Night, #TheSISTAHSMinistry

"If you are single there is always one thing you should take out with you on a Saturday night... 
your friends."

Friday, June 15, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies: Finding Tranquility, #TheSISTAHSMinistry

“When we are unable to find tranquility within ourselves, it is useless to seek it elsewhere."

Friday, June 8, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies: Sing Yourself, #TheSISTAHSMinistry

"I celebrate myself, and sing myself." ~Walt Whitman

Friday, June 1, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies: The Single Relationship, #TheSISTAHSMinistry

You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is truly central and crucial in a life is the relationship with the Lord. Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, He is the only One you will never lose.

Friday, May 25, 2012

Mixed Up with Somewhere to Go, #AlltheSingleLadies

Think about the ingredients required to bake a cake: flour, eggs, sugar, oil, etc. Individually, they are not at all appealing but once mixed together and baked in an oven, they all combine to make a very tasty dessert. Similarly, individual events in life may not seem very pleasant either, but together they all work to make up a very blessed life.

Friday, May 18, 2012

Trusting God to Be Single... Really? #AlltheSingleLadies

Enjoy your singleness, because singleness will not likely last forever. This is not punishment, nor have you been sent to detention.  It's just your assigned state for the moment.  Don't just give lip service to the words, if you trust God, really trust Him. The best place in the world to be is in His will, and if it's His will that you are not married right now, why would you want to be anywhere else?

Friday, May 11, 2012

Don't Just Sit Around, #AlltheSingleLadies

God doesn't want you to just sit around waiting in our singleness, you should be serving. In fact, once you are married you will likely not have the time to serve as much because then marriage and family will become your first ministry priority.

Friday, May 4, 2012

Waiting is Hard, #AlltheSingleLadies

But don't allow someone's insensitivity (likely unintentional) to cause you to question God's love for you. God loves you more than you will ever know. What's more, He knows you better than you know yourself. He knows what lies ahead and thus allows you to go through certain challenges to prepare you for the challenges ahead. Let God be God and go with the flow because you can rest assured He has your best interest at heart. God loves you more than you love yourself and He will always love you better than anyone else ever will.

Friday, April 27, 2012

Season of Singleness, #AlltheSingleLadies

Don't be in such a hurry to be married that you  marry just about anyone that comes along then wonder why you are so miserable. You've tried everything else, now try waiting on God.

Saturday, April 21, 2012

Singleness doesn’t have to be a burden, it’s actually a great opportunity to serve. Enjoy this time just getting to know yourself and God better. Granted, some days that will be easier said than done, but believe me, it is possible.


God is the great I AM. (Exodus 3:14) God is whatever or whoever you need Him to be. Learn and use the Names of God.
I'll say this once again, singleness is not a bad thing! In fact, many single women have gone on to live very full, well-balanced lives. Some have even gotten married and started families, which just goes to prove you're not necessarily destined to be single forever.

Don't put your life on hold waiting to be married. Also, don't wait until you're sick and tired of being sick and tired to start enjoying your life. There is no reason why you can enjoy a full life right now.


Monday, March 26, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies: Pre-Marital Sex (Part 2)

10 Reasons Not to Have Sex Outside of Marriage (continued)

Reason #6 - We Will Show Consideration for Our Partner's Well-Being

If we put our partner's needs above our own and consider their spiritual well-being, we'll be compelled to wait for sex. We, like God, will want what's best for them.
    Ephesians 5:2  Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us and offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God. (NLT)
    Philippians 2:3 Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; (NASB)

Reason #7 - Waiting is a Test of True Love

Love is patient. That's about as simple as it gets. We can learn the sincerity of our partner's love by their willingness, or lack thereof, to wait.
    1 Corinthians 13:4-5 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking ... (NIV)

Reason #8 - We Will Have No Negative Consequences to Deal With

There are always consequences to sin. Some of those effects can be devastating. An unwanted pregnancy, a decision to have an abortion or place a child for adoption, broken relationships with family and friends — these are just a few of the possible outcomes we face when we choose to have sex outside of marriage. We should be sure to consider the snow ball effect of sin. And what if the relationship does not last? Hebrews 12:1 shows that sin hinders our lives and easily entangles us. We will be much better off if we avoid these negative consequences.

Reason #9 - We Will Keep Our Christian Testimony Intact

We don't set a very good example of godly living when we disobey God. The Bible says in 1 Timothy 4:12 to "be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity." (NIV)
In Matthew 5:13 Jesus compares his followers to "salt" and "light" when we represent him in the world. When we no longer shine the light of Christ, when we lose our Christian testimony, we lose our "saltiness." In other words, we become flavorless and bland. We lose our ability to attract the world to Christ. Luke 14:34-35 puts it strongly, saying that salt without saltiness is worthless, not even fit for the manure pile.

Reason #10 - We Won't Settle For Less Than God's Perfect Will

When we choose to have sex outside of marriage, we settle for less than God's perfect will — for ourselves and for our partner. And if we do this, we don't know what we might end up with. Perhaps we'll end up in a miserable marriage.
So, here's some food for thought: If your partner wants sex before marriage, consider this as a warning sign about their spiritual condition. If you are the one who wants sex before marriage, consider this as a warning sign of your own spiritual condition.

Monday, March 19, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies: Pre-Marital Sex, Is It Worth It?

There's no way around it—today's culture fills our minds with hundreds of reasons to just go ahead and have sex outside of marriage. But as Christians, we don't want to simply follow everyone else. We want to follow Christ and know what the Bible says about sex outside of marriage.

10 Reasons Not to Have Sex Outside of Marriage

Reason #1 - God Tells Us Not to Have Sex Outside of Marriage

In the seventh of God's Ten Commandments, he instructs us not to have sex with anyone other than our spouse. It is clear that God forbids sex outside of marriage. When we obey God, he is pleased. He honors our obedience by blessing us.
    Deuteronomy 28:1-3 If you fully obey the LORD your God ... [he] will set you high above all the nations on earth. All these blessings will come upon you and accompany you if you obey the LORD your God ... (NIV)
God has a reason for giving us this command. First and foremost, he knows what's best for us. By obeying him, we trust God to look out for our best interests.

Reason #2 - We Won't Miss Out on the Blessing of the Wedding Night

There's something very special about a couple's first time. In this physical act the two become one flesh. Yet it is more than just physical oneness — a spiritual union takes place. God planned for this exclusive experience of discovery and pleasure to happen only within the intimacy of marriage. If we don't wait, we miss out on a very special blessing from God.
    1 Corinthians 6:16 Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, "The two become one." Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never "become one." (The Message)

Reason #3 - We Will Be Spiritually Healthier

If we live as carnal or fleshly Christians, we will seek to gratify the desires of the flesh and live only to please ourselves. If we live this way, the Bible says we cannot please God. We will be miserable under the weight of our sin. As we continue to feed our fleshly desires, our spirit will grow weak and our relationship with God will be destroyed. Complacency with sin leads to worse sin, and eventually, spiritual death.
    Romans 8:8,13 Those controlled by the sinful nature cannot please God. For if you live according to the sinful nature, you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the misdeeds of the body, you will live ... (NIV)

Reason #4 - We Will Be Physically Healthier

This one is a no-brainer. If we refrain from sex outside of marriage, we will be protected from the risk of catching sexually transmitted diseases.
    1 Corinthians 6:18 Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. (NLT)

Reason #5 - We Will Be Emotionally Healthier

One reason God tells us to honor marriage and keep the marriage bed pure has to do with baggage. We carry baggage into our sexual relationships. Memories from the past, emotional scars and unwanted mental images can defile our thoughts and make the marriage bed less than pure. Certainly God can forgive the past, but that doesn't mean we're free from the baggage that can linger in our minds.
    Hebrews 13:4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. (NIV)

Monday, March 12, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies: Experiencing a Toothache Called Loneliness

In a sense, loneliness is like a toothache: It's a warning signal that something is wrong. And like a toothache, if left unattended, it usually gets worse. Your first response to loneliness may be to self-medicate - to try home remedies to make it go away.
Busyness is a common treatment.
You may think that if you fill your life with so many activities that you don't have time to think about your loneliness, you'll be cured. But busyness misses the message. It's like trying to heal a toothache by taking your mind off it. Busyness is only a distraction, not a cure.
Buying is another favorite therapy.
Maybe if you purchase something new, if you "reward" yourself, you'll feel better. And surprisingly, you do feel better - but only for a short while. Buying things to fix your loneliness is like an anesthetic. Sooner or later the numbing effect wears off. Then the pain comes back as strong as ever. Buying can also compound your problems with a mountain of credit card debt.
Bed is a third response to loneliness.
You may believe that intimacy is what you need, so you make an unwise choice with sex. Like the prodigal son, after you come to your senses, you're horrified to discover that this attempt at a cure not only makes loneliness worse, it also makes you feel desperate and cheap. This is the false cure of our modern culture, which promotes sex as a game, as recreation. This response to loneliness always ends in feelings of alienation and regret.
God's answer to loneliness is not the quantity of your relationships, but the quality.
How is your relationship with God? Is it close and intimate, like that of a loving, caring father and his child? Or is your relationship with God cold and distant, only superficial?
As you reconnect with God and your prayers become more conversational and less formal, you'll actually feel God's presence. His reassurance is not just your imagination. We worship a God who lives among his people through the Holy Spirit. Loneliness is God's way, first, of drawing you closer to him, then forcing you to reach out to other people.
For many of you, improving your relationships with others and letting them get close to you is a distasteful cure, as dreaded as taking your toothache to a dentist. But satisfying, meaningful relationships take time and work. You are afraid to open up. You are afraid to let another person open up to you.
If you muster the courage to restore your relationship with God, then with others, you'll find your loneliness lifting. This is not a spiritual Band-Aid, but a real cure that works.
Your risks toward others will be rewarded. You'll find someone who understands and cares, and you'll find others whom you understand and care about as well. Like a visit to the dentist, this cure turns out to be not only final, but much less painful than you feared.

Monday, March 5, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies: Keep it Moving...!

Postponing life until marriage is one of the commonest traps singles can fall into.
You think, "When I'm married I'll do this…" or, "After I get married then I'll finally be happy…"
But marriage may be farther off than you think, and for some of you, marriage may not happen at all. Postponing life can start as a harmless wish but can turn into a self-limiting habit that keeps you from becoming the person God wants you to be.
For most singles, going places and doing things alone can be scary. One of God's best gifts is a good friend who's ready to go on the spur of the moment. Friendships like that have to be cultivated, which means you need to overlook others' faults. When you are honest enough to admit you have faults of your own, you can be forgiving of others. Simply practicing the Golden Rule can strengthen any relationship.
Your life gets bigger every time you trust God and step out in faith. At first you may feel apprehensive, but God can give you the courage you lack.

Monday, February 27, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies: Getting It Straight

God's business is putting things right; 
      he loves getting the lines straight, 
   Setting us straight. Once we're standing tall, 
      we can look him straight in the eye.

Psalm 11:7 (MSG)

Monday, February 20, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies: Defeat of the Enemies

I'm thanking you, God, from a full heart, I'm writing the book on your wonders. 
   I'm whistling, laughing, and jumping for joy; 
      I'm singing your song, High God. 

The day my enemies turned tail and ran, 
      they stumbled on you and fell on their faces. 
   You took over and set everything right; 
      when I needed you, you were there, taking charge. 

You blow the whistle on godless nations; 
      you throw dirty players out of the game, 
      wipe their names right off the roster. 
   Enemies disappear from the sidelines, 
      their reputation trashed, 
      their names erased from the halls of fame. 

God holds the high center, 
      he sees and sets the world's mess right. 
   He decides what is right for us earthlings, 
      gives people their just deserts. 

Psalm 9:1-8 (MSG)

Monday, February 13, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies: Can't Get By

Nobody gets by with anything. 
      God is already in action— 
   Sword honed on his whetstone, 
      bow strung, arrow on the string, 
   Lethal weapons in hand, 
      each arrow a flaming missile. 

Look at that guy! 
      He had sex with sin, 
      he's pregnant with evil. 
   Oh, look! He's having 
      the baby—a Lie-Baby! 

See that man shoveling day after day, 
      digging, then concealing, his man-trap 
      down that lonely stretch of road? 
   Go back and look again—you'll see him in it headfirst, 
      legs waving in the breeze. 
   That's what happens: 
      mischief backfires; 
      violence boomerangs. 

I'm thanking God, who makes things right. 
   I'm singing the fame of heaven-high God.

Psalm 7:11-17 (MSG)

Monday, February 6, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies: Affection Starvation

Please, God, no more yelling, no more trips to the woodshed. 
   Treat me nice for a change; 
      I'm so starved for affection. 

Can't you see I'm black-and-blue, 
      beat up badly in bones and soul? 
   God, how long will it take 
      for you to let up? 

Break in, God, and break up this fight; 
      if you love me at all, get me out of here. 
   I'm no good to you dead, am I? 
      I can't sing in your choir if I'm buried in some tomb! 

I'm tired of all this—so tired. My bed 
      has been floating forty days and nights 
   On the flood of my tears. 
      My mattress is soaked, soggy with tears. 
   The sockets of my eyes are black holes; 
      nearly blind, I squint and grope. 

Get out of here, you Devil's crew: 
      at last God has heard my sobs. 
   My requests have all been granted, 
      my prayers are answered. 

Cowards, my enemies disappear. 
   Disgraced, they turn tail and run.

Psalm 6 (MSG)

Tuesday, January 31, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies: Give Me Answers...!

When I call, give me answers. God, take my side! Once, in a tight place, you gave me room; 
   Now I'm in trouble again: grace me! hear me! 

You rabble—how long do I put up with your scorn? 
   How long will you lust after lies? 
   How long will you live crazed by illusion? 

Look at this: look 
   Who got picked by God! 
   He listens the split second I call to him. 

Complain if you must, but don't lash out. 
   Keep your mouth shut, and let your heart do the talking. 
   Build your case before God and wait for his verdict. 

Psalm 4:1-5 (MSG)

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

#AlltheSingleLadies: Keep Godly Relationships

How well God must like you— you don't hang out at Sin Saloon, you don't slink along Dead-End Road,  you don't go to Smart-Mouth College. 

Instead you thrill to God's Word, 
      you chew on Scripture day and night. 
   You're a tree replanted in Eden, 
      bearing fresh fruit every month, 
   Never dropping a leaf, 
      always in blossom. 

You're not at all like the wicked, 
      who are mere windblown dust— 
   Without defense in court, 
      unfit company for innocent people. 

God charts the road you take. 
   The road they take is Skid Row.

Psalm 1