We all live life differently and experience things at different times. The author encourages you to be who you are and to stop picking apart everything about yourself. She backs up the idea that we all do things (including finding love) in our own time and in our own way. Honestly, the book really makes you feel like you are fine just the way you are and that wherever you are at in your life is where you are supposed to be (which is another thing that I really loved about the book). I guess in a way it reassured me that I am doing what I need to be doing and that I am at the right place in my life.