Physical, Emotional and Spiritual Oneness

A woman should understand that it is inappropriate to pursue or engage in physical, emotional or spiritual oneness with a man to whom she is not married.

Ephesians 5:3-4 says "But among you there must not be either sexual immorality, impurity of any kind, or greed, as these are not fitting for the saints.  Neither should there be vulgar speech, foolish talk, or coarse jesting - all of which are out of character - but rather thanksgiving." 

You see, SISTAHS, it's more than just abstaining from sex; to be a true and respectful woman, it's also about watching what you say and how you believe.

For many women, the struggle in relationships isn't a physical issue; rather, it's of a spiritual and emotional matter.  Therefore, to avoid developing spiritual ties, you must conduct yourself appropriate with men whom you consider "friends".  Be careful about praying with or sharing other spiritually and emotionally intimate experiences one-on-one with men whom you consider "friends".

You also need to be cautious about whom you express your hopes, dreams, and fears.  Women have been designed to "naturally" connect with men, but you must always use wisdom and be on guard about your interactions with the opposite sex.

She Trains Her Thought Life Not to Lust After Men

A woman should dress modestly so that she does not cause men to stumble, and she trains her thought life not to lust after men.

Excerpt from "When Love's In View" by Dr. Conway & Jada Edwards  

Romans 14:13 underscores this principle: “Therefore we must not pass judgment on one another, but rather determine never to place an obstacle or a trap before a brother or sister.”  To put it simply, women must be very careful about what they wear.  The focus of men’s interest is physical by nature.  They don’t need any help from us in conjuring up physical desire.  If this happens to be a struggle for you and you often feel convicted, earnestly pray and ask the  Lord to show you how to make the appropriate changes in your dress and lifestyle.  God will respond by giving you the grace to help you make the necessary adjustments in your behavior.

As you pursue the heart of God, you will find that what may have been acceptable in the past is no longer acceptable to you.

And SISTAHS, let’s not forget our duty to lovingly, yet boldly encourage and challenge younger ladies as to what they wear – not just talk about them as they walk by.